WHAT ATTRACTS THE PARTICIPANTS TOWARDS “THE BLUE WHALE CHALLENGE”?
When a teenager is depressed, he/she is in a very fragile and negative state of mind. Anyone who seems as a support system and is ready to listen and understand their state of mind comes across as a shoulder to them. If you tell a teen with depression that he can live and life is good, they find these words worthless however if someone tells them to die, he will relate to it.
SO HOW DO WE KNOW IF A TEEN IS DEPRESSED/ SUICIDAL?
- Talking or joking about committing suicide.
- Saying things like, “I’d be better off dead,” “I wish I could disappear forever,” or “There’s no way out.”
- Speaking positively about death or romanticizing dying (“If I died, people might love me more”).
- Writing stories and poems about death, dying or suicide.
- Engaging in reckless behavior or having a lot of accidents resulting in injury.
- Giving away prized possessions easily.
- Saying goodbye to friends and family as if for the last time.
- Seeking out weapons, pills, or other ways to kill themselves.
HOW CAN WE HELP AS A PARENT/ RELATIVE/ FRIEND
- Take it seriously: “This is no reason to commit suicide”, is often said by people who knew a completed suicide. You cannot assume that because you feel something is not worth being suicidal for you, the person you are with feels the same way. It is not how bad the problem is, but how badly it’s hurting the person who has it.
- Suicidal behavior is a cry for help: “If a someone is going to kill himself, nothing can stop him” is a myth. The fact that a person is still alive is sufficient proof that part of him wants to remain alive. If a suicidal person turns to you it is likely that he believes that you are more caring, more informed about coping with misfortune, and more willing to protect his confidentiality. No matter how negative the manner and content of his talk, he is doing a positive thing and has a positive view of you.
- Be willing to give and get help: Suicide prevention is not a last minute activity. Unfortunately, suicidal people are afraid that trying to get help may bring them more pain: being told they are stupid, foolish, sinful, or manipulative; rejection; punishment; suspension from school or job; written records of their condition; or involuntary commitment. You need to do everything you can to reduce pain, rather than increase or prolong it. Constructively involving yourself on the side of life as early as possible will reduce the risk of suicide.
- Listen: Give the person every opportunity to unburden his troubles and ventilate his feelings. You don’t need to say much and there are no magic words. If you are concerned, your voice and manner will show it. Give him relief from being alone with his pain; let him know you are glad he turned to you. Patience, sympathy, acceptance. Avoid arguments and advice giving.
- Urge professional help: In most such cases, professional help is required. Do not hesitate from talking to a Psychologist.